Total chaos unleashed

Sorry I've been so slow to post lately. I have just been incredibly busy trying to get things squared away before starting intern year in just a few weeks. Plus, there's that small matter of graduation, which I have barely thought about and is just around the corner. Frankly, I'm not much for ceremonies, and I've got so many things going on right now that it is at the bottom of my list of things to worry about. Although I guess I should figure out the whole gown/rehearsal/schedule stuff before I forget.

To make things even more complicated (and what has really been tying up all my time) is that we are now thinking about buying a home. Despite all the media about home prices plummeting, it's a fantastic time for us to consider buying. Around here, homes usually get dozens of bids (and most get more than asking price) but now, there are fewer bidders for the same number of homes, so we have a chance at a reasonable price. And interestingly, home prices have not decreased in this part of California (they just haven't been increasing as much as they usually do). Prices around here are crazy, really crazy. Imagine "crazy" and then at least double that price, maybe triple that price. That's how much you'd pay for an old, dinky house around here. We can't afford a detached, single-family house (and if we don't get in the market soon, we may never be able to), so we are looking at townhomes and condominiums. Is it worth living here? Who knows, but we're at least stuck here for a few more years and it's not smart for us to keep throwing away money into renting (especially if we can try to buy), not to mention take advantage of the tax shelter we'd be getting.

With my older son starting kindergarten next year (we think), we're trying to figure out which school district we'd like to live in so we won't have to move too much and he can make longtime friends. The problem is that the school systems are very complex (not to mention oversubscribed and underfunded) and for the first time, we are actually considering private school as an option (which is totally not something we ever thought we'd do). But I can totally see why people send their kids to private school now. And I'll write more later about all this. I've literally gone from zero to at least 80% in terms of researching homes, schools, and the tax code in the last week. My brains hurts from all the number crunching and decision-making, but I think it'll be worth it. It might be a whirlwind in the next few months, but nothing we're not used to by now. Thank goodness I have these few weeks to work this out.

So between trying to make decisions about schools and whether or not to purchase (we've never owned a property before), there's that other little matter regarding financing. Apparently it is quite difficult to get a loan nowadays (there are unique loans for physicians that we are looking into, but they of course have higher rates), and of course we don't have much equity or fluid assets at the moment. But at least we can probably qualify for a physician loan. Otherwise, how do you tell a bank Um, we don't have much for a down, and we don't have any assets - in fact, we have hundreds of thousands of dollars of school loans, but please loan us several hundreds of thousands of dollars. With this physician loan (low/no down, no PMI, up to $1 million), we will have massive monthly payments for the first little while, but once we build up some equity, we can refinance and bring that down. And if we sit tight and don't move for a few years (which I'd love - student life has resulted in five moves in the last five years, four with at least one child), we'll have a nice springboard to purchase the next home (which would otherwise be impossible).

It's all very crazy right now, and it's going to be even crazier once I start (I'll be sure to post about moving in the middle of my intern year). Nothing has been set in stone yet, but I am chin deep in the middle of the chaos right now and will be sure to update once it's a bit less crazy.
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Three years ago today

Sometimes it's hard to find a photo that was taken exactly one, two or three years ago. Believe it or not, there were many days where we didn't take any photos. People always remark at how we have so many pictures of the kids. While it's a total pain to carry around the camera, I wouldn't trade anything (except maybe to go back in time) for all the wonderful shots of the boys we have.

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Reminder: May promotions expiring soon

If you wanted to take advantage of the Amazon promotions for May, you've got until tomorrow to order.
See my posts about: Aveeno and Lubriderm products and Horizon milk and Pampers.


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Choosing my medical specialty (continued)

If you missed the previous sections, you can read the whole thing here.

Figuring I just needed to dive in and try something, I decided to take a stab (no pun intended) at the world of surgery. As a pre-clinical medical student, I never really heard many positive things about surgery – the field is widely portrayed in a very negative way. Read more
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Hugging or trapping?

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Definitely trapping.
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Ecco Alligator sandals for $24

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Garnet Hill is having a big kids' sale and clearance event. I actually just placed an order from them (had a gift certificate to use) for these Ecco Alligator sandals (just in time for summer). The day they arrived, I received an email about this sale. I checked the site and noticed that the sandals were now on sale and discounted heavily (more than 50% off the regular price). A quick call resulted in a price adjustment (they have a 30-day policy) which is great news. In any case, they are well-made and have a nice, flexible sole (can't go wrong with Ecco).

As sandals go, I think they are fairly pricey even after the discount, but those of you who are familiar with the brand will recognize that this is a great price. My husband's shoe collection is slowly being replaced by only Ecco shoes - they are extremely comfortable shoes. I think they are pretty cute and am pretty sure the boys will like them as well.

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Don't forget to check out their sale of the day, which tends to sell out pretty quickly.
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Free shipping code for Gap, Inc.

The other day, I posted about Gap Inc. and their newly revamped shopping site, where you have one shopping bag and a flat $7 shipping fee.

Through May 31, use code 1CHECKOUT for free shipping on your order.
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Spring Carnival

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Children's Place promotions

These are good deals on summer clothing, if you need to stock up. The Children's Place has good cotton play wear, perfect for daycare or preschool (things get lost, and these won't break the bank). We've stocked up on tank tops for the kids. Good prices on water shoes too.

Current offers:
$5 flat rate standard shipping on all orders
Spring sale - take an additional 50% off select items
15% off all orders with code S2A58 through 6/1/08
Mix and match tees, tanks and shorts (3 for $15)
Shorts starting at 2 for $15
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Riding the scooter

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$5 off $25 printable coupon at Babies R Us

Memorial Day special at Babies R Us. It's a printable coupon, but will have a code to be used online as well. Expires May 26, 2008.

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Every little bit helps

Every little bit helps. That's what I tell myself when I am feeling particularly helpless when it comes to all the worldwide suffering we hear about. Sometimes it's just downright overwhelming because there are so many people who are in need of help. I started this post a while ago, but have just now gotten around to finishing it. Partly because I have been so busy, and partly because I've been avoiding writing about such a sad topic. The recent natural disasters in Burma and China have affected everyone I know. It is just so tragic.

I don't know if I pondered these events as much as I do now (probably not) but it breaks my heart to hear about all the parents who are waiting by toppled school buildings to find their child. Hoping for a miracle, and if not, finding a way to have some closure - when, in reality, I don't think any parent ever really gets over the death of a child (they just learn to cope as best as they can).

As for Burma, I've avoided posting about it because I haven't really wanted to stop to think about it too much. It's just so sad. As I've mentioned before, my family is from Burma. Entire villages in Burma have disappeared. People aren't getting the help they need and the available assistance is very slow and often inappropriate. I've stopped asking my folks if they've gotten through to family on the phone because I think the communication system there is a disaster right now. I think the cities where most of our family were relatively spared (they had big storms and some buildings were damaged, but not to the extent that you see on the news).

After having visited once, I immediately saw how peace-loving the Burmese people are. Despite having their rights constantly denied by the ruling government, they manage to (in my opinion) overlook the unfairness of it all and make do with what they have. People tend not to be very aggressive (passive, some would say) and hardly ever complain, even though they have plenty of reasons to. There's a mentality of enduring the hardship because that is all they have. It's pretty unfair and a situation like that anywhere else would not be tolerated (people here get angry when we have to wait too long in line at the supermarket). It's just not fair.

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I often think that I haven't changed that much after having children. But something that has obviously changed a lot is how I feel when I imagine putting myself into the shoes of other parents who are living a total nightmare. Whether it be while rotating through the children's hospital or hearing about the loss of a child through the media, it always floors me whenever I imagine how horrifying an experience it must be for a parent to lose a child. I have often told people that I just don't know how parents who have suffered such losses make it through each day, because I don't think I could handle it. Just the mere thought of anything happening to my kids forms a lump in my throat and brings tears to my eyes.

In any case, the wheels have been spinning in my head about how I'd like to (at least start) helping those in need. I am finally approaching a time in my life where I can afford to contribute financially, however small (earning a meager income still beats building debt every year). Never mind that our combined school loan burden is equal to twice the average home cost in the United States. Relative to many people, we're living very comfortably. And we'd like to try to help.

I'm going to start by donating 100% of the profit generated from this site to a particular charity that will change every few months (I'd make it more structured, but am afraid my schedule might make it too hard to do so). We will also make direct donations on our own. I would love to be able to match contributions in the future - we just aren't quite able to do so at the moment.

I've chosen Unicef's cyclone relief efforts in Burma as the first charity. Please consider donating directly using the button below, or consider shopping through the Shopping Resource page. Whether it be $1 or $1000, every little bit helps. Or, shop for textbooks, toys, clothes or whatever - just click through the appropriate links, and you'll be contributing a small but essential amount to help those in need. I don't plan on browbeating everyone to donate (it's a personal decision and depends on your own situation), so the only times I'll post about this is to let you know when we've switched to another charity. And also to give you occasional updates about how much we've raised.

Thanks for reading this lengthy post and take care.
-msm

Support UNICEF's relief efforts in Myanmar
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Beating the heat

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New Gap shopping - 4 stores in one place

Gap Inc. just launched their newly revamped shopping site. You can now shop at Gap, Old Navy, Banana Republic, and Piperlime at the same place by using tabs. The best part is that you only need one shopping bag and one flat shipping price of $7 (if you only buy Piperlime products, shipping is free).

Pretty cool - saves time and shipping fees. I like it.
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Pixar special edition DVDs on sale at Amazon.com

Amazon.com has Pixar Collector's and Special Edition 2-disk DVD sets on sale for under $13 each. This is a great deal. I am completing our collection right now (my husband and I have seen them all, but the kids haven't). They also make great gifts. The boys really love "Cars" and "Finding Nemo," so I am sure they'll love the rest of them. We'll have plenty of options on those rainy days.

Click on the images below to be linked to the Amazon product pages.

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I wear my sunglasses at... the dentist

Flashback to the eighties! I never thought about the light being too bright for the kids, but the dentist offers them and it's a big hit.

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Window shopping

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Times I wish I had a camera in my eye

Not long after our first baby was born, my husband remarked to me how he wished he had a camera in his eye. We laughed about it, but there have been many times I've felt that way. Pretty much on a daily basis now that I think about it. That's why we don't hesitate to pull out the camera, even though it's quite bulky to carry around.

For example, several weeks ago when I picked up the boys from daycare, my toddler had some confetti streamers stuck to the bottom of his shoes (they were inside all day because of rain, and it looked like a birthday party had exploded in their room). His brother thought this was hilarious, and started trying to grab them. This started a game of chase, with my toddler running down the sidewalk with confetti streamers flapping in the wind behind him, like tassels on bike handlebars, except on his shoes. It was a really funny moment I wish I could have captured on film.

Another time, while my husband was getting the bath ready, my toddler wandered into the kitchen (I usually prepare dinner during their baths). He only had his diaper on, and was fascinated by the fridge, which I had just opened. He held open the door with one hand, and I guess he must've been itchy, because he started scratching his bottom with his other hand, pushing down his diaper and partially mooning me in the process. It was a total stereotypical construction worker/plumber moment that would have been awesome on film.

Here's a photo series of the boys playing with their box of various musical instruments.

Not quite right:
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Now you've got it!
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Tasty drumstick?
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Almost looks like he's reading music, doesn't it?
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Watching ducks

My husband is on a difficult rotation (pretty much until the end of his fellowship) and is on call the whole weekend so we're both exhausted. Posts will mainly be recent photos for the next few days.

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watching ducks
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Gotcha!

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Choosing my medical specialty (continued)

Here's the next section I wrote about how I ended up choosing my medical specialty (I'll get to the end soon):

As part of my neuroendocrine research, I learned how to do some stereotactic microsurgery (brain and vascular), which I loved. It was very calming to spend a whole afternoon performing these surgeries, and I really enjoyed trying to come up with ways to improve the procedures and help with recovery of my tiny rodent patients. Read more
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Meow

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No way

Last week, I went to the Occupational Health office at the hospital I will be starting at for residency, in order to complete my pre-hire physical (asked my height and weight, checked my vision and blood pressure), and get blood drawn for tuberculosis testing. I called back to see if the results were back so I could have them sign off on my checklist, and this is what happened:

Me: Hi, I wanted to check on my lab results for my new-resident physical and TB lab test.

Nurse: Um, hold on a sec.

Me: Okay.

Nurse: Oh, did the lab call you?

Me: No.

Nurse: Oh, they didn't? Well, we do not have the results of the test because the tube broke. You need to come in and have blood drawn again.

Me: You're kidding me!

Nurse: No, I'm sorry I am not. The lab should have called you. Please come in Monday through Thursday...

Me: (interrupting - hey, I was miffed) You're not open tomorrow?

Nurse: No, please come in Monday through Thursday to have it redrawn.

Me: What time can I come in until?

Nurse: 4:30pm.

Well, I better get going. I'll have to hurry if I want to go stand in line to pick up a new lab slip and then head over to the lab again where I will wait another 30 minutes for an available phlebotomist to draw more blood. Boo. What a wasted afternoon.
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Recommended but not yet reviewed

There are a bunch of products that we have gotten that I think are fantastic, fun, totally useful or all of the above. Of course, I haven't yet finished the reviews but am working on them (I'm slow, I know). I've decided to post the product photos and links for anyone who is interested, and I will be sure to get those reviews up as soon as I can. In the meantime, feel free to contact me if you have any specific questions about any of the products I linked to.

You can see all the products at the bottom of the Product Reviews page.

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Two years ago today

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Random Medical Fact #41: Felty syndrome

Felty syndrome is characterized by the triad of chronic rheumatoid arthritis, splenomegaly, and granulocytopenia. Patients frequently have high titers of rheumatoid factor, and may also have subcutaneous nodules.

Although many patients are asymptomatic, some develop serious and life-threatening infections secondary to granulocytopenia.
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Step 3 will have to wait

I had plans to see if I could take USMLE Step 3 before starting residency. It turns out that you have to have graduated from medical school before registering for the exam. In any case, I guess I will consider taking it during an elective month during intern year, or (preferably not) during a vacation. Too bad, since I was hoping to get it over with as soon as possible (it's taken over two days!).
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Frustrated with grapes

Sometimes they are just so tough to pull off the stems!

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Book Review: Ready, Set, Brush (a Sesame Street pop-up book)

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This is a Sesame Street pop-up book by Che Rudko and Tom Brannon which we just bought one weekend on a trip to the campus bookstore. My younger son has been resisting having his teeth brushed recently (he loved it when we first started doing it), and I thought he might enjoy seeing Elmo do it, seeing as how he has an Elmo toothbrush and all, and calls it Ah-mo. He also says buh shhh (with a 1-2 second delay between the sounds), which I think means brush. In any case, it was worth trying. Read more
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Cheap thrill: Bubbles

On the last morning of our trip to Hawaii, we wanted to take it easy with the kids, but at the same time, let them burn some energy before boarding the plane for the flight home. This was successfully accomplished with some inexpensive bubble-blowing toys we had purchased while we were there.

Despite only costing a few dollars (~$3 each), these things were pretty awesome. Sometimes it can be hard for my kids to adequately blow bubbles with those little wands than come in the bottles of soap solution. Powered with a single AA battery (included with the toy), these blowers provided plenty of energy to blow hundreds of bubbles in a fairly short period of time.

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Mother's Day

It was a nice weekend, to say the least.

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Check out the improved Product Reviews page

Okay, so I spent way too much time on this - but I thought the Product Reviews page was too text-heavy. I added a selection of product photos and links to hopefully help make it easier to navigate. Come check it out - suggestions are always appreciated!

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One year ago today (Happy Mother's Day!)

Happy Mother's Day!

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Shopping promotions

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Free shipping, no minimum purchase, with code
FREESHIP, through May 12, 2008.


Shoebuy.com
For today only, save 20% and get free shipping for Mother's Day with code MOM2008. See site for restrictions.
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Aveeno and Lubriderm promotion at Amazon.com

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Save 20% when you buy any two Aveeno or Lubriderm products offered by Amazon.com, using the code May8Avee. Expires May 31, 2008. Although this offer can't be combined with their Subscribe & Save program, it's actually a better deal, especially if them item you want isn't part of the program. I'm restocking on bath supplies, so this is a perfect sale for me.
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Shoes.com Saturday sale

They hold this sale once a month, and carry brands that my other online shoe source does not. It runs from 5am to midnight PST. I'm planning on picking up some sneakers for my active preschooler (nowadays, he doesn't outgrow them before they get worn out).

They also have another promotion going on right now (I'm pretty sure they can be used with the Saturday sale):
Use coupon code MAY50 to get $5 off any order of $50 or more while MAY100 will save $20 off any order of $100 or more (expires May 15, 2008).

Saturday Sale Big Savings at Shoes.com


You can always find more sales and coupons on my Shopping Resources page. Thanks for supporting my site!
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You guessed it - sofa jumping in Hawaii

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This is a photo-heavy post, but I couldn't find just one or two photos that captured the fun the boys were having. These were taken in Hawaii, after a hot and humid morning outdoors.

We retreated to the comfort of air-conditioning (plus I think the boys were due for a nap, although I can't quite remember if that ever happened). They spent a decent amount of time leaping off the sofa while I put together a quick snack, and we were all very entertained by this particular activity.

Every time they jumped, my heart would skip a beat because they just kept getting braver and jumping higher and farther. Fortunately, they never jumped on top of each other, or at the same time. Otherwise we would have had some bumped heads for sure.

Just look at how happy they are.
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Anticipating the jump:
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Look at that height!
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They could have done this for hours.
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This time, with the towel:
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Guess what they're up to

Here's a hint.

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May promotions at Amazon.com

Here are two Amazon promotions I just took advantage of:

Save 20% after an instant rebate when you buy eligible Horizon Organic Milk offered by Amazon.com. Use the code HORIZONN. Offer valid through May 31, 2008. This offer may be combined with Subscribe & Save, an additional savings of 15%. See site for details and restrictions.

Also, get a promotional certificate good for $20 off a future purchase when you spend $99 on select Pampers (and Luvs) products offered by Amazon.com, through May 31, 2008. See site for rules and restrictions.

I like having the plain milk boxes handy for when we go out on the weekends, and I'm too lazy to pack sippy cups. I keep a few boxes in the fridge, but it's nice that they don't need to be refrigerated. As for diapers, well, we're using half as many now (hooray for being potty trained!), but I know we'll still need at least three more boxes. And now that the prices have increased, any discount is appreciated.

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Stamp Out Hunger food drive

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Please consider taking part in the the nation's largest annual single-day food drive, Stamp Out Hungerâ„¢, on Saturday, May 10, 2008.

I know I've done my fair share of over-ambitious food planning (and buying a few too many cans of diced tomatoes from Costco in anticipation of making tons of homemade meals). The letter carrier is making it easy for me to donate by coming by to pick up the food. How much simpler could it be? If you've got food at home that you don't think you'll get to anytime soon, consider contributing. It's a easy way to help those in need (too bad they can't bring it to Burma). I'm all for recycling and reusing things that still have good mileage in them (it's just hard to lug everything to the donation centers sometimes). So this is perfect for me.

Here's the scoop:

On Saturday May 10th, letter carriers in more than 10,000 communities will collect food items and deliver them to local food banks to help some of the millions of Americans, including an estimated 13 million children, who face hunger every day.

Since 1993, families have donated more than a half-billion pounds of food to Stamp Out Hunger. You can help make this year our most successful ever. Simply place bags filled with nonperishable food items like canned meats and fish, canned soup, juice, pasta, vegetables, cereal and rice next to your mailbox on Saturday, May 10th. Your letter carrier will pick up the bags and deliver them to your local food bank. Please do not include out-of-date items or those in glass containers.


Make it easy and fill your bags now and place it near your front door so you don't forget.
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